About Nic DePaul
Built from
the inside
out.
Identity and Confidence Coach. Founder of NEXTSELF. Someone who has lived in the gap and built a system to close it.
Based in Scottsdale, Arizona
Background in Interpersonal Communication and Psychology
Athlete D1 · 2x All-American · UVU Track and Field


THE ORGIN

"I lived in the gap for years before I figured out how to close it."

D1 athlete. 2x All-American. From the outside I looked like someone who had it figured out. Awards. Accomplishments. A body built through discipline. People saw the athlete and assumed the confidence came with it.

It did not.

On the inside I was fighting. Nights questioning my worth. The pressure of trying to become someone while secretly feeling broken. The exhaustion of fighting my own mind every single day through child abuse, ADHD, depression, dyslexia and while performing like none of it was happening.

For years I lived between two identities. The person I was and the person I knew I was capable of becoming. That gap is where most people give up. It is where excuses grow, confidence dies, and potential quietly fades.

I know because I almost stayed there too.

THE DECISION

"Stop running from yourself.
Build the person you know exists."

NEXTSELF was born from the decision to stop waiting to feel ready and start becoming the person I already knew existed underneath the pain, the fear, the setbacks and the doubt.

Not through motivation. Not through faking it until it became real. Through identity work the deep, structural kind that changes who you are at the root, not just what you do on the surface.

That process took years to live and years to systematize. NEXTSELF is what it became. The Rewire, Refine, Reinforce method exists because I needed it first and then watched it transform every person I applied it to.

TODAY

Identity & Confidence
Coach. Not a theory.
A result.

My background is in Interpersonal Communication and Psychology but the real education came from doing this work on myself first, then watching it transform the people around me for years before NEXTSELF had a name.

I am based in Scottsdale, Arizona. I work with ambitious professionals worldwide in person and remotely, who are held back by confidence in the rooms and relationships that matter most to them.

The people I work with are not broken. They are capable, often more capable than anyone around them knows. They are just living at a fraction of what they are built for. My job is to close that fraction.

100+
Lives Redirected
D1
2x All-American Athlete
4
Client Spots Per Month
1
Root Cause. Every Time.
The Way I Work
What you can
expect from
working with me.
Four principles that define every client relationship from the first call to the last check-in.
01
Honesty over comfort
I will tell you the truth.
Not to be harsh, because I respect your time and your potential too much to waste either. The most valuable thing I can give you is an honest read of exactly where you are and what it is actually going to take to get where you want to be.
02
Structure over inspiration
This is not a motivational experience.
Motivation fades. Structure stays. Every session, every mission, every check-in is designed to build something permanent, not give you a good week. You will leave with a system, not just a feeling.
03
Proximity matters
I take on four clients a month. Maximum.
That is not a scarcity tactic. It is a commitment to depth. When you work with me you are not one of hundreds. You are one of four. That changes the quality of attention, the speed of results, and the level of accountability you can expect.
04
Results are the only metric
I measure this in what actually changes.
New jobs. New relationships. New baseline. Promotions asked for. Rooms walked into differently. These are the things that tell me the work is real, not how someone feels on a Tuesday after a good session.
From Clients
Not what changed.
Who changed it.
Right Now
Beyond the work.
I am building NEXTSELF in Scottsdale with a daughter on the way. That reality is not separate from this work. It is the reason this work is urgent.
I want to show her what it looks like to build something real. To do work that actually changes people. To show up with full presence as a husband, as a father, as a founder and as a man whose inside and outside finally match.
But beyond the personal, what drives this work every single day is simpler than any framework or method. I genuinely love watching people win. Not just feel better. Actually win. New job. New relationship. New room they walk into differently. There is nothing like being in someone's corner the moment they realize the person they have always been capable of being is finally the person they are.
That is what NEXTSELF is built on. That is what keeps me here.
"The most painful place to live is knowing exactly who you are capable of being and not being that person yet. I close that gap."
If something in this landed
that is not a coincidence.
The Identity Audit Call is where we figure out exactly what your gap is and what closing it looks like for you. It is free. It is 45 minutes. And you leave with clarity whether you move forward with NEXTSELF or not.
Only 4 spots available per month
Book Your Identity Call
45 minutes. No pressure. Just an honest conversation.